Sunday, July 24, 2011

Senior Dating Group - The Modern Version Of A Matchmaker

Do you have a local senior dating group? I bet you do! These groups are fast becoming the "must have" of any decent neighbourhood.

In the olden days, life was much simpler. Everyone knew everyone else so if you were looking for a relationship, you just put a discrete word out and lo and behold your knight on his shiny black horse would appear.

Times have moved on but there is no reason why your knight or princess cannot show up today albeit in a four wheel drive or similar vehicle. How do you find a match in this busy world of ours? Join a senior dating group!

Perhaps you are not looking for a long term partner but would love the chance to meet people to go on dates with. You might like to go to a film, theatre, picnic or perhaps even a holiday. Everyday activities that may be just a little more interesting if you had someone to share them with.

A senior dating service is ideal as the members are generally going to be a similar age and share similar beliefs both culturally and religiously. In some dating groups you can be very specific regarding the qualities of your ideal mate. For example, if you don't have children, you may not relish the thought of taking on someone else's large family.

Dating services for seniors are booming as more and more people are living longer and looking to enhance their golden years. They have reared their families and/or their careers are now completed. So now they have plenty of spare time and in a lot of cases, financial resources but just need someone else to share the moment with.

Older people have a different approach towards love and relationships. They have probably learned that physical beauty is only skin deep and while being attracted to the other person is very important, they do not need to resemble the latest fashion icon or supermodel. Hopefully both parties will have grown to accept their grey hair and wrinkles!

As we get older, compatibility and shared values become much more important. While older people can obviously still become intimate, they are less likely to be lead by their hormones as your average teenager. They will have already dealt with the issues caused by wanting kids or work/life balance. They do not face the same hurdles as younger people when it comes to finding a suitable partner.

But it is not all plain sailing. As we get older, we can become more set in our ways and less adaptable to change. After being alone, it can be difficult to open up your life to others. We may also have children or grandchildren who may believe that we should be spending the remainder of our days on the porch in the rocking chair.

But you will never know who you might meet or what experiences you could have until you try. So get those glad rags on and join your local senior dating group today.

Tuesday, July 12, 2011

Winning The Ex War

We have all found ourselves in this situation at some point in our lives. We have a relationship that ends. Then, we find ourselves constantly thinking about our ex and wishing them back. Oftentimes, the reason for the breakup was due to problems that were created by the ex. Perhaps they were unfaithful. Maybe they could not be trusted. There are a wide range of possibilities for what happened. But, the fact of the matter is, the relationship ended for a reason and it was obviously a valid reason or you would still be together.

So, you are now in a situation where you think about nothing but, your ex. You want to have them back in your life. You call them for no reason, just to hear their voice. You find silly, pointless reasons to see them. You make it very clear and obvious to them just how much you want them in your life. However, this is the absolute worst thing that you can do to yourself. You deserve better than them. You deserve to be in a relationship where you are truly cared about and a relationship that is healthy.

The first thing to do when you are trying to break the spell that your ex has over you is to keep yourself busy. Talk with your friends and let them know what is going on. Go out and spend time with your closest friends. Focus on your hobbies and thinks that you have an interest in. Spend time with your family members. Find anything that you can do to keep yourself busy and keep your mind off of your ex. This is going to make it much easier to avoid calling them. It will also lessen that desire to be with them all the time. You will soon start to realize that your life is better without them in it and is much more enjoyable.

Another important step is to avoid jumping into a new relationship right away. This is not fair to you or to the person that you start this relationship with. You need time to heal and to get over your ex.

If you jump into a new relationship right away, you are essentially using this new person to replace your ex. You still want to be with the ex though and that makes this relationship doomed to fail before it even starts. You will always be talking about your ex and constantly comparing them to this new person.

It creates a very uncomfortable, self conscious situation for the person that is stuck in the middle of your personal issues. You are treating them in a way that is completely wrong and unfair. You need to give yourself plenty of time to grieve and get over the lost relationship before you try getting into a new one.

Make a list of all of the things that your ex did to you that were wrong. Chances are you can come up with a pretty extensive list. This is a good thing for you right now. Every time that you start thinking about your ex, look at this list. It will remind you why you are no longer together. It will help clarify things and keep you from wanting to go back.

These few tips can help you avoid putting yourself into a vicious cycle where you are continually being hurt. You will be able to protect yourself and to get past the loss of a love. You will also be able to spend some time on improving yourself. This will make you a better person in relationships to come.

Friday, July 8, 2011

Unapproved Relationships - Forbidden Love

So, you think that you have met the perfect guy or girl. They seem to be exactly what you are looking for. You are happy and you feel as though you are floating on air. There is nothing that could compare to this feeling that you have. You have never been so happy in your life. You are more fulfilled and your life seems to be perfect and complete.

You decide that you want to introduce your new partner to your family. With as much as you love and cherish this person, there is no way that your family could not love them, right? This is a common misconception that people, especially teenagers and young adults, trick themselves into believing.

They think that this person that they see as being perfect is going to be perfect in everyone’s eyes. They do not look at the big picture. They are simply looking at what is right in front of them. They are blinded by love. This is a common occurrence.

After taking your new partner to meet your parents and having a dinner that feels kind of awkward to you, you see your date off and then return to the house. You immediately start demanding your parents to explain to you why they were so cold and hostile to your new love interest.

You want to know why they do not see the loving, affectionate, perfect person that you see. Your parents take you into the living room and sit you down so that they can explain the whole story to you.

Your new love is unemployed. He has no means to be able to take care of you or support you. Your father wants you to be with someone that can take care of you and treat you the way that he feels you should be treated.

This new love has no goals and no desires. He is not going anywhere in life. Your parents see him as being someone that is going to hold you back in life. He is going to bring you down. You will not be able to reach your full potential with this person.

These are some common concerns that parents have and that they express in regards to a new relationship. You should take what they say to heart and analyze everything from an unbiased point of view. If you feel that they are wrong, then you can push for their approval. Prove your parents wrong.

Make them realize that they are not right about this person. Talk with your partner about their goals and dreams for their life. Help them to find a meaningful place in life. By helping them to succeed, you will be succeeding yourself. You will be showing your friends and family that you can make good decisions and that you are right in what you want.

If, however, you find that what your parents are saying is true and you do not think that you can change it, be gentle when you let this person down. The worst thing that you can do is be blunt and repeat exactly what your parents said.

This can be very hurtful and devastating to a person that is being dumped. Make it as pain free and easy as you can. This will help both of you recover from the loss quicker.

Tuesday, July 5, 2011

The Personals For Seniors Worked - Now What

Most people have seen personals for seniors in a newspaper or magazine, but they rarely stop to think about whether they would use them. They are less likely to think about what would happen if they do work and result in contact with a prospective partner.

People post personals for seniors as a way of meeting new friends and potentially a new partner. There are many ways to meet new dates and personals is just one of them.

Senior citizens could also try

1) Senior dining club

2) Speed dating for seniors

3) Themed Single Senior Nights.

4) Senior dating group

5) Senior online dating service

6) Family and Friends

7) Introduction agencies or old style matchmakers.

In short, there are a number of ways you can use to find your new partner. So you have placed a personal ad, they have replied. Now what?

Do you initiate the first meeting? Well, I would suggest that you leave that to the man but then I have been told I am old fashioned. But most men of a certain age were brought up to believe it was the man's job to ask the lady out so now would not be a good time to test that theory. So if in doubt, let him do the asking.

Don't take offence if he asks you out for a drink rather than a date. If you have ever seen a Hugh Grant film, you will know that a lot of men see a huge difference between the two. Go for the drink and see where it leads.

Where do you meet? I would avoid a movie on the first couple of dates. You can't get to know someone if you are watching a movie, theater or concert. That can come later. For now, a quiet little restaurant or coffee house would fit the bill nicely.

I would suggest that you go somewhere you feel comfortable. In fact, if you are woman meeting a man for the first time, I would only go somewhere I was known for safety reasons. You can try out new venues later. For now, you will be nervous enough without worrying about whether you will get lost/abducted/arrive late etc.

If you cant think of anything to say, it is probably nerves and chances are he has them too. So it is fine to admit that you are nervous. It may actually put him more at ease. Try and keep the conversation light - talk about a book you have read, or a film you have seen. Encourage him to talk too by asking gentle questions.

Leave all emotional and financial issues at the front door of the restaurant/coffee shop and collect on your way out. Even if you hit it off, now is not the time to discuss your overbearing mother, unfaithful husband or drug addicted daughter.

I always try and finish the first date. Why? Well, mum always said that you became more attractive as you became more unavailable. Two, it can be unusual for a woman to make this move so you will help him to remember your date.

Now you know to make the most of personals for seniors.

Saturday, July 2, 2011

Save Your Marriage Rekindle Your Romance

At some point in time, nearly every relationship is going to reach a point where the spark and fire goes out. The couple finds that they are no longer as attracted to their partner. They are spending less time together. The pressures of work and life in general have taken over. There is no longer time for going on dates, long nights spent together, or things of that nature.

Instead, it is a matter of a few words in the morning before rushing off to work; dinner spent listening to the kids, and an evening of finishing up everything that you need to do for the next day or doing things individually. There is never quality time being spent together.

Many people realize that this is happening within their relationship when it first starts. However, most people have no idea what to do about it or how to change it. They resign themselves to the fact that this is how their life is meant to be and they do not do anything to try to change it or make it better.

These relationships become more like a commitment and duty than a loving, happy situation. It is like being in a rut that you cannot get out of. Imagine if your job became exactly the same day in and day out. Imagine if every aspect of your life was precisely the same day to day.

How long would this go on before you had enough and started making changes? It would probably not take very long. The same should be true for your relationships. You should not settle for a comfortable relationship where you just exist together in the same house.

One of the first and easiest ways to start rekindling your romance is to start going on dates again. Now, this may sound silly to someone that has been in a relationship for many years. However, if you try it you will see how much of an impact it can have on your relationship.

Decide on a certain number of dates a month. Perhaps you can only start out with one or two a month due to other obligations. This is fine. You have to start somewhere. Find a babysitter for the kids. Forget about everything else that is going on in your life. This is your time for you and your partner. The rest of the world should not exist.

Pick a favorite place that both of you really enjoy and go there. You could go and have a romantic dinner together. Or, you could go to a movie. The possibilities are endless. It is not about what you are doing, it is about spending that time with your partner and reconnecting with them. Continue to make these dates and stick to them. Gradually you will start adding in more dates and you will find that this is wonderful for the relationship.

Take a second honeymoon. Now, this does not mean that you have to spend an outrageous amount of money and go to some tropical island. You can honeymoon anywhere. Maybe it is simply a week in a hotel. Or maybe you like camping and want to spend some time together in the woods. It is all a matter of preference. You can honeymoon anywhere that your heart desires. Leave your work behind. Find someone reliable to watch the kids. Do not take anything that will distract you from your partner.

Then, go and enjoy the company of each other. You will find that this is very refreshing and can add new life to the relationship. It can reiterate the closeness and the passion that you felt when you first started a relationship with this person.